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From the Trenches

After a Physician Dies by Suicide

By Ryan DuBosar

ACP Internist

This article shares resources and discusses the multiple factors that contribute to physician death by suicide. Highlighted tools include advocating for systems changes, destigmatizing mental health help-seeking in the culture of medicine, and creating supportive communities for those associated with or affected by the tragic event.

Doctors as Patients

By DEI Shift; Podcast Episode 5 (2021)

Clinicians are often referred to as heroes for the long hours we work and the lifesaving work that we do. However, this idea of the 鈥渋nvincible鈥 doctor often does a disservice to our profession and patients by creating the idea that disease and illness are only experienced by our patients. Our guests, Dr. Justin Bullock and Dr. Mansi Sheth, share their stories of going through medical training with a chronic illness and discuss the limitations of our medical system in doing so. Trigger warning: This episode discusses suicide and suicidal ideation.

On Leaving Clinical Medicine

By Kyan Lynch, MD, MA

Annals of Internal Medicine | On Being a Doctor

Fortunately, I was blessed with one of the most effective treatments for suicidality: a solid support system. My residency program was accommodating and responsive. Once I expressed my distress, the chief residents and program administration acted quickly, securing a leave for me and coverage for my patients. I was not second-guessed or judged, and no one said that I 鈥渃ouldn't hack it.鈥 This is one of the reasons I am alive today.

Building Community, One Connection at a Time

By Kerri Palamara, MD, MACP

Our monthly coaching calls with Well-being Champions and Crissy Walter and Kierston Scott from ACP have become a bright spot in our calendars. Many who join us have found a sense of community and camaraderie in these groups, even if it is not the same faces each time. Knowing there is a place to go where you can be in community with others, receive support and encouragement, and walk away with action items has helped many champions fight back against the sense of loneliness that has crept in for many. We can't completely blame the COVID-19 pandemic for this鈥攚e were a lonely society in the United States before COVID-19, and the pandemic has introduced new ways to feel lonely.

So, what is this concept of loneliness all about? Loneliness is defined as 鈥渁 person's feelings about the adequacy and quality of his or her relationships in particular situations鈥 (1). Contrary to what you might think, loneliness can occur when you work alone or are surrounded by people. Think of a busy nursing station, buzzing with activity and people, and a doc sitting at a computer, alone with their feelings. Loneliness is impacted by the same stressors that drive burnout and affects 3 in 5 adults in America (2). Chronic loneliness can have serious consequences, such as anxiety, depression, and substance use disorder (1鈥3). The statistic that really changed my view on the importance of addressing loneliness was this: The chronic stress of loneliness can be as risky as smoking 15 cigarettes per day and increases your risk for heart disease by 29% (3)!

Loneliness can be a viscous cycle: When feeling lonely, one tends to withdraw emotionally and stop participating in social events, which only furthers isolation. For example, how many times have you heard comments like, 鈥淲hy should we invite Bob? He never comes to anything鈥 or 鈥淢arie barely talks to anyone; I doubt she'd want to come.鈥 The lonelier we become, the more we feel disconnected and insecure: Self-doubt creeps in and negative thoughts and ruminations become more persistent (2, 3). Those who experience loneliness in the workplace begin to disengage from the work itself and the organization, which can lead to loss of meaning and purpose, decreased productivity and creativity, and increased turnover (3).

If you aren't sure if you are lonely, the Loneliness Scale.pdf is a good place to start (4). U.S. Surgeon General Dr. Vivek Murthy helps us understand how to consider loneliness and its antithesis, connection, in his book Together: The Healing Power of Human Connection in a Sometimes Lonely World. He describes three levels of connections that sustain us: intimate (partner, spouse, best friend), or someone who knows you for who you truly are; relational (circle of friends), or people you want to spend time, dine, and go away with; and collective (community), or those with whom you find a sense of a shared identity (5). In his book, he recommends spending 15 minutes per day connecting with someone else with a mindful presence, free of distractions, as one way to combat loneliness.

Other suggestions to battle loneliness for individuals or organizations are:

Individuals Organizations
Find a buddy to check in with regularly. Examine the culture鈥攁sk about loneliness, connectivity.
Work in teams. Educate leaders about loneliness.
Build mentoring relationships. Connect new hires early, even before they start.
Don't eat alone. Encourage mentoring and buddy programs.
Take breaks, and talk to someone! Engage in frequent team-building activities.
Be present when connecting with others. Sponsor lunches with no agenda.
Share with and listen to others. Talk about loneliness; normalize it.
Perform random acts of kindness. Look out for people who are isolating.
Express gratitude. Build social/connectivity time into meetings; lead by example, and share!
Check on someone. Wherever possible, give the team a say in decision making that affects them.

Another component to consider in connecting people with each other at work is that we have become a bit socially awkward as a nation! We aren't used to being in close contact with each other and having unmasked or in-person conversations. In addition, for some, there may not be a ton to talk about if life is a bit mundane. Getting people talking through a team-building or connectivity exercise is a useful tool to get over that hump! I designed this exercise to get people talking and also to help them start to consider what good days look and feel like. In doing so, we can empower people to be active contributors to their well-being by building supportive environments and connections. Try it out, and let me know how it goes!

More Good Days

  • Make time to pause and think about what is going well, what contributes to good days, and how to build more of that into our days.
  • The goal is to have more good days and to know what good days look like for us.
  • Identify tangible components of our days that contribute to our well-being.
  • Build a sense of control, self-efficacy, and self-advocacy to construct environments in and outside of work that are supportive and sustainable.

What makes for a good day?

  • What makes for a good day at work these days?
  • What makes for a good day outside of work these days?
  • Be specific! What about these things makes you feel good?

How do we get more of the good?

  • What would it take to have more of that in each day?
  • What do you need to have more good days?
  • What can you tell yourself on the tougher days?

Next Steps

  • Based on this, what do you want to ask for? This could be of yourself, of someone else, etc.
  • What commitment are you ready to make?

References

  1. Vantage Circle. Workplace loneliness鈥攖he silent killer of your organization. 11 February 2019. Accessed at .
  2. MindTools. 8 ways to beat loneliness in the workplace. 2021. Accessed at .
  3. Cigna. Loneliness is at epidemic levels in America. 2021. Accessed at .
  4. AARP. How lonely are you? 24 September 2010. Accessed at .
  5. Murthy VH. Together: The Healing Power of Human Connection in a Sometimes Lonely World. HarperCollins; 2020.

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